Crushes and Rejection

Orange Crush.  Blue Crush.  Boy Crush! The when you see him your heart flutters kind of crush.  I'm realizing that having a crush on a boy isn't as fun as it was back in middle school, when you used to call him, giggle a bit and then hang up.  When you saw him in school and would shyly say hi.  Ah...the days.  Now there's feelings, and awkwardness, and rejection.   The over analyzation of everything and what went wrong.

When you google rejection or crush, I'm finding that WikiHow is really helpful for things like "How to communicate with a guy after he's rejected you".  Who would have known??

I'm ready for a relationship!  Something long term!  I can't help but feel a little sad  when my couple-y friends go out for dinner or on vacation on don't invite me.    Until then, datapalooza is definitely planned for the spring and summer of 2011.  I gotta turn that frown upside down!  Up next:  speed dating is planned!

Great and funny men's website

I love this post about shirt tucking in no-no's..

http://manofthehouse.com/style-grooming/fashion/4-reasons-not-tuck-in-shirt

Lent: The time to give things up

I always pictured in my head the type of guy I thought I'd date and/or marry.    I have decided that that guy doesn't really exist (besides in my dreams) and I need to get real.  So for Lent, I am giving up types.  Who cares about height?  weight?  eye color?  What really matters:  personality, things in common, smiling, laughing, etc.    I'm going to make it to Easter for sure..

The St. Patrick's day party (aka: drink fest) was great- good friends, good eye candy and free flowing booze.  I didn't realize Denver had so many Trixies and the male version, Chads.  Seeing so many in one place brought back tons of good ol' Chicago memories.  

Happy St. Patrick's Day!

St. Patrick's Day is big in Denver- parades, drinking, green clothing.  Everyone is happy that the weather is taking a turn for the better (aka: warmer) and we can be outside drinking again.  I didn't go the big party at Fado's last year because... well I was still getting over my break up I guess.  It's supposed be be sunny and 67 on Saturday so I can't wait for a day of outdoor drinking, sun and hopefully making out with some boys!  I just need to break out my green clothing now.

Besides that, it's been all quiet on the dating front as of late.  I spent a nice, long weekend in California with my sister and have been really concentrating on my new job.  Yup, new job!

I Gotta Feeling..

..that next week's date might be good.  The day/time isn't set yet, but we are going out.  I can't wait.  More details to follow!

Lookin' for Love...

...On the RTD?  Or on the side of the road?  So I'm taking the RTD for a few days, my car was involved in a hit-and-run and is in the shop.  While it was getting towed the other day, the tow-truck driver asked me out.  I'm guessing that he was in his upper 40's, and he was missing some visible teeth and sporting womanly locks. Needless to say, I said no.  And he works 4pm-4am, when would I ever see him??

While trekking my way up 16th Street Mall because the free shuttle wasn't coming I engaged in a conversation with a guy who was also walking and waiting.  He asked me out, but I kindly declined...he just didn't seem like my type.  And I could barely talk because my face was frozen (1 degree with a -19 windchill)

I'll still be checking out the guys on the bus, though.  No iPod, magazines or books for me- I want to look available and willing to chat! 

Men and Flakiness

Come on Gentleman, when you ask me to go out, don't cancel on me!  And via text?  Come on, get the balls to pick up the phone and call!    No excuses like it was snowing too hard or I didn't have any clothes to wear or the dog ate my car keys.  Rescheduling for 2 weeks from now is no consolation prize.  DELETE!

Dating is on Pause

So I'm a little tired of the lame dating scene here in Denver so have decided to take a brief hiatus.  I'm planning on taking a trip to see my sister in CA in a few weeks so maybe I'll fall in love with a rich hunky man who owns a winery, loves dogs (but doesn't have any) and is tall and cute!  One can hope, right??

What to do on a 3rd date?

If I can get to a 3rd Date, I like Dan's advice. 

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No big news to report on the dating front, although I'm thinking about a few options to meet hotties:
speed dating, renting a puppy and walking in Wash Park, or the lunch thing...

Denver is no longer MENver

From the most recent 5280 issue, which profiled Denver's Tallest Tales:

12. “Menver” is a fair, accurate nickname for Denver. False

If you walk into a LoDo watering hole, the ratio of beards to broads is often way out of whack, which helps perpetuate Denver’s reputation for testosterone overload. In 2007, National Geographic provided quantitative backup to the rumor by publishing a map that suggested the Denver metro area was home to about 40,000 more single men than single women. But a more recent U.S. Census Bureau estimate indicates that single women now outnumber single men by about 2,000. Sadly, neither Nat Geo nor the Census Bureau offered suggestions for how to distract eligible bachelors from craft brewery happy hours or totally epic powder days. —LUC HATLESTAD

Is this really the kind of guy I attract?

So I've had dates here and there with guys I thought were my type, based on OK Cupid ratings and similar interests.  My faith in said ratings is definitely dwindling, unless I'm supposed to end up with a Dad Jean wearing  guy, who I had the pleasure of having a date with on Friday. If you don't know what Dad Jeans are, here is Obama sporting a nice pair.

No, this was not the same dad jeans guy from my date a few weeks back but a different one.  JOY!  There is more than one 30-something guy in this lovely state who thinks dad jeans and white tennies are okay on a first date!  Yup, I'm being serious.  I lasted about 45 minutes, pretty much slamming my beer and using my dog as an excuse. 

I also received a lovely text from the guy I've been out with a few times, and who I thought I could see myself dating.  It said  "Although I've had fun with you I've started dating another girl exclusively."  My response was "Good luck with that."

There are two more potentials lined up for the next ten days, a lunch date Wednesday and Happy Hour next week.  My fingers are crossed for non-dad jeans dates!

I love this photo/e-card

Although I didn't break up with anyone this year around the holidays (thank goodness!), I still thought it was pretty hilarious.  And I'm sorry to anyone out there who broke up with someone either right before or right after the holidays, I know how much it sucks.  It was one year ago that I had my big break up, and it was just his birthday too.  Did I feel sorry for myself?  Hell no!  I got drunk with my friends, mainly the day after New Years.  It's always suggested to drink many, many mimosas and do the wave at Steuben's.  All of my fun money after bills are paid usually goes to them.  And I don't complain about that.

A few years ago (ok, I guess it's been more like 6 years) my then boyfriend and I broke up on January 1st.  Seriously.  He told me he would have broken up with me earlier than that, but he knew I was getting him nice presents for Christmas so he stayed with me.  His defense was that he spent a lot of money on my birthday earlier that year so it only made sense to get Christmas presents.  Really??!  I now remember why guys can be jerks sometimes.

8 Mistakes

I read this article today and thought it was worth posting.  I don't think I have any male readers but if so, the article offers some good advice.  If not, if you the reader has some single male friends, pass along the link- they'll thank you.

Some of the joys of being single AND some dates

I've been thinking a lot about my life, where I'm going, where I've been and what lies ahead.  I'm realizing (with the help of all my friends) that only I can design and build the road to my happiness!  Here's a few things I'm enjoying in my single life:

-I get all 4 pillows AND the whole bed.  At least when the dogs aren't on it...
-I can do what I want, when I want, the way I want
-I can eat breakfast for dinner or dinner for lunch or not eat at all
-I don't have to shave my legs all the time!
-I can drive erratically, sing in the car and stop anywhere I want along the way
-I don't have to live up to anyone else's expectations, or listen to anyone else's demands
-I AM HAPPY BEING ME!!

After reading my list I am smiling and realizing that I am happy where I am in my life- finally!  I owe much of this to my friends, you guys know who you are.  That being said, Datapalooza is NOT ending... it's too much fun.

I did have a date on Sunday with a guy who told me umpteen times that he was from XXX town and what he does for work.  In my head I kept on hearing "This one time at band camp..." it was a bit exhausting.  And he sat on the same side of the booth as me!  Talk about awkward, I like to look at people in the face, not cram my neck around to look at them.  And I swear he spit on me...more than once!  NEXT.

My other date from last week was a chain smoker.  We went to happy hour for less than 2 hours and he got up to smoke twice, and talked about it about 5 times.  I'm okay with occasional smokers, but really?  On a first date?  NEXT.


Merry Holidays, and Happy New Year.  Datapalooza 2011 is on the horizon! 

I stick out like a sore thumb

It's that time of the season for holiday parties, both companies and friends.  On Friday I went to a company holiday party with my good friend S.  Assuming that there would be single guys at the party was a bad idea, because there was none to be seen. Even the photographers and wait staff had rings on their fingers.  Really?

I rounded on my weekend of holiday parties with a white elephant party on Saturday night with some of my favorite people. It was a great time with Wasasil  and sausages in saucy goodness.  The best part was the white elephant gift exchange, when I, the only single person at the event chose the present with this book.

I immediately turned bright red and everyone laughed.  Someone else made a comment about the dip and how it was dateless (the other dip had dates) just like me.  WOW, nice hua?

I typically really like Christmas, but with the anniversary of my breakup right around the corner the holidays aren't seeming so festive this year.  Here's looking towards a new year, right?

Ready to Rumble!

I'm back from my lovely Thanksgiving holiday.  It was a great visit with family and I think I was only asked a few times if I was "going with anyone".  I do wish I could have spent more time in the airports.  I love people watching, and after reading this article I want to see if I can find love at an airport too!  ORD, SFO, BWI, JFK-  instead of the typical man-quest to visit all major league baseball stadiums I'm starting a quest to visit (and hang out in) all of the major airports in the US.  Time to start booking flights, with as many layovers over 2 hours as possible!

On to Better Things

Good news readers, Datapalooza IV (or is it V) will commence after the Thanksgiving Holiday, I have at least 4 dates lined up which should amount to some good reading.

Happy Thanksgiving, safe travels and enjoy the holiday with good food, good friends/family and some good drinks.

Radio Silence and Annoyance

So I've been out with the same guy roughly 12 times and things were going good.  We had rounded second base and were on our way to a home run in the next few dates when... radio silence.  No response to my phone calls or text, and he even cancelled the last time we were supposed to get together.  I'm just waiting for the Facebook friends deletion.  I mean really? 

What kind of guy does this?  If you aren't interested in me anymore, for whatever reason, at least let me  know instead of saying/doing nothing!  All I can think about is what did I do/say that made such an impact, that after 12 GOOD dates you just leave me hanging?  It doesn't take all that long to send me a quick text saying that although you've had fun you just aren't that in to me.  Or just tell me to read the book.  Geez.

The good news is that I'll have some new content (aka men) for my blog now.

Fabulously Single?

5280 Magazine is having their annual Top Singles Nomination for their event in February.  Vote for me or for someone else you think is fabulous, single and worthy of meeting other hot singles! 

Does Love Exist or is it a Fantasy?

I'm not overly cynical but I've always wondered how people feel about love?  After watching the movie 500 Days of Summer my thoughts went back to all of my previous relationships.  Was I in love with the idea of being with a guy or the way he made me feel?  Or was I in love with the idea of not wanting to be alone?

This is the longest I've ever been single, I'm going on almost a year.  And I have to say, I love it.  I have a new found appreciation for doing things that I want to do WHEN I want to do them, not answering to anyone besides myself (and I guess the dogs), and sleeping in a bed by myself.  

After my Datapalooza's I, II and III I'm not convinced that I'm quite ready to fall back in to a relationship, aka give up my single life.  As Summer says "I like being on my own. I think relationships are messy and people’s feelings get hurt. Who needs it? We’re young, we live in one of the most beautiful cities in the world; might as well have fun while we can and, save the serious stuff for later."

And PS:  I put on my big girl pants last week...