Back to Square One or Not?

Well the guy I so fondly talked about in my last blog post has been kicked to the curb.  After 8 dates or so I realized that the only time we had good conversation was after two drinks.  And although conversation was decent, a lot of things weren't just quite right- there was just some things that I like to do that he couldn't see himself doing.  NO- these aren't things in the bedroom- dirty thoughts tonight eh?  I'm talking about dancing in the rain, or dancing at all! Going to concerts, trying new restaurants, dressing up in costumes for no real reason... I could probably go on.  So ya, I had to let that one go.

There is potentially another man around the bend, but I gotta see where it goes before I talk about it, I feel like I might jinx this one if I do.  All I know is that he makes me laugh, gives me awfully nice compliments and is damn cute.

The Cart Before the Horse

I haven't written a blog post in what seems like forever.  I've taken most of the summer off from dating and have spent my time doing me things, like: trying to mountain bike, weekend trips away, gardening, going to Rockies games, sitting on patios, etc.  I also spent the summer thinking about my single life, what I truly want in a partner and even crying sometimes about it all.

I also got a new job about 2 weeks ago, so quitting and starting something new hasn't been the easiest.  My new job is in a real office with nice people and guys who are mostly married.  Not like I'd date a co-worker but I have a few single girl friends left!

I've been on some mediocre first dates over the past few months, and some lousy second and third dates.  Some guys never paid for even a drink of mine.  Come on guys, if you like me try to get me drunk and make out with me!  Just like all of the other dates I've been on in the past there just wasn't a spark, they were all just meh.

About 2 months ago I decided it was time to actually PAY for dating, I mean you pay for what you get, right?  Free=lousy men and pay=better men?  So I get on to Match, fill out my profile, upload some summer photos and start winking at guys. Because that's what I do best, wink and not talk.  Some responded with a no thanks, some didn't respond at all, some actually wrote back.  Even less wanted to meet in person.  Why do guys just want to chat on and on and on?  They know they are good on paper but suck in person, is what I've figured out.

I'm not going to put the cart before the horse or anything like that but I've been on 3 dates with a guy and I have to say I think I LIKE HIM.  And he's a good kisser.  I know that after our wildly high schoolish make out session in my car last week.  It's been over 3 years since I've liked a guy, so I have to admit it feels a little strange.  We have a lot in common, but not too too much.  He has a ton of the qualities I want in a partner.  He's going to meet some good friends of mine this week so we'll see how it goes.  And we have plans for the weekend too.

Valentines Day and Other Ramblins

So I went on a Valentines Day first date.  What, you think that's weird?  Ok, it was a little strange.  We were eating sushi amongst couples that were holding hands, making out and who couldn't stop staring lovingly in to each other's eyes.  BARF.  We were asking each other questions like where did you grow up, and what do you do for work.

It was definitely high pressure for the guy, especially since getting a reservation last minute was nearly impossible, but was figured out thanks to online reservations.  Conversation was good, etc. and I think I'll give him a second chance.  He called today and left me a voice mail about scheduling another time to go out but only if I'm interested.  Dude- have some balls and say that you'd like to take me out again!

Now to the 'Other Ramblins'.  Okay guys, listen up.  If you aren't interested in a girl instead of lying blatantly to their face, just tell them the truth!  Maybe I'm too old or too whatever, but don't lie about having plans.  Oooh, did I CATCH you in that lie and are you embarrassed??!  Haha for you.  Either come up with a better lie or tell the F*#^ing truth!

Oh and my Ex got engaged on Valentines Day- sooo cheesy but good for him.  I wish them many years of happiness.

Ok Ramblin done.  I do have another first date this evening with another eligible Denver man.  We're meeting at Stranahan's, which should be fun.  Details to come!

New Year, New Dating Strategy

Happy 2012!  2011 was a year of first dates, both good and bad, but not a lot of second dates.  This year I'm changing that, by signing up for the one dating site I said I NEVER would- Eharmony.  I decided that maybe I do need to pay to date, in hopes that the men will be higher quality (aka I'm getting what I pay for).  After signing up and completing page after page of personality questions, then uploading photos including the must have full body shot, face shot and shot with friends, I was ready to get started.  And by Joe, the men ARE better looking and seem to be more motivated to find someone for a serious relationship!

I went on a date two nights ago with what I hope is one of many more men from Eharmony.  The date was great (it's been a LONG time since I've been able to say this), great conversation, lots of laughing and he even paid!  We'll see if I hear from him again, I hope so.  If not, there are plenty more waiting in the wings to go out with.  Let's just hope that I don't get matched with any more of my friends- can you say awkward??!