Hello, Your Name Is...?

I had two first dates this weekend (and a 3rd date to boot, although that will be a separate post), both of which I couldn't remember or find their names and both of which were before noon.  I mean I HAD their names in an email on the dating site I'm using but somehow they were deleted.  Talk about awkward!  I'm still not quite sure how to GET their names.  I wrote them and said thank you for the date and signed my name, hoping they would sign their name back but that didn't work.  Maybe the ol' I dropped my phone in the toilet and I lost all of my contacts trick will work?  Or the dog ate it?


So now I have to TBD entries in my blackberry's address book.  Hopefully one day soon the TBD's will be replaced with Patrick or Joe or Sam.. or something.

Datapalooza.. and What is a Dealbreaker?

So I have 3 dates in 4 days.. one is a 2nd date and the others are first dates.  I fondly refer to this as Datapalooza.  I am not above having 2 dates in the same day, either, and have actually done this on a few occasions.

My friends have suggested that I pre-qualify my dates because my recent dates have looked go on paper (aka online) but not so good in person.  And this got me thinking- What are my 5 MUST-haves in a guy?

Height?  Weight?  Age?  Eye color?  Shoe size (wink wink)?  Do these things really matter?  I mean I'm tall, but do I really need a guy that will tower over me when I'm wearing heels (which I honestly wear once a month)? I've narrowed down my must-haves to these:

-nice teeth/smile
-wants to settle down in the next few years/open to kids
-at least my height
-good sense of humor/can make me smile
-likes sports, both playing and watching
-50/50 between loving the outdoors and loving the city life.

Ok that's six, but whatever.. I like to bend the rules.

My good friend M says that I need to keep an open mind about my dates.. age, kids, job, etc.  All that doesn't really matter all that much if when you meet them, they are truly your better half.

Wish me luck!

Thought I'd share an email..

I thought I'd share the email I sent to my friends about my 'dad jeans' date:


Met at XXX Tavern, 6pm.  I went inside and ordered a beer.  I saw him walk up and thought he would just come inside, but he waited outside on the bench.  From the second I saw him I knew it wasn't going to be a good date, I should have gotten up and left right then.  I didn't have his number, but he had mine so he could have called.  He sat outside for 10 minutes and then finally came inside.  And stood by the door. For another 10 minutes.  I was sitting right inside and looked at him and smiled a few times... no response.  After 20 minutes and my first beer, he finally walked up to me and asked if I was me.

So not a good start.

A few things:  He's lived here for 20 years and hasn't been to Red Rocks, or a concert in 7 years.  He's never been to the mountains really (never been to Estes, etc.),  He dislikes the outdoors.  he is tall, but he is super nerdy.  He was wearing dad jeans and bad tennis shoes.  He couldn't hold a conversation and there were a ton of weird silences.  The most fun thing he does on the weekends is play trivia in a bar.  He also lived with his parents until he was 28.. and he's 30.

Does age really matter?

How big of an age gap really matters?  5 years?  10 years?  15 years?  Women in their 40's who date/pursue younger guys are called cougars, and women in their 30's (like me) are called Pumas.   I love that term.  Although I don't know if I'm looking for a younger guy?

I went on a date with a older man (9 years older) who has older kids.  I would have never have guessed, he looks significantly younger than that.  I mean, does it really matter?  He doesn't act older and besides the fact that my age is half way between his and his daughters, I don't see much of a difference.

I read this article about age gaps and how NOT to treat your significant other, so I guess as long at I take their suggestions in to consideration, I'm good.  

Dad Jeans? Bad Tennis Shoes?

So what is appropriate attire for a first/blind date?  The date I went on last night was wearing old man New Balance shoes, dad jeans and the same shirt that he's wearing in BOTH of his profile pictures.  Really?  Do you have any other shirts to wear?

I'm not an overly dressy person- I tend to feel most comfortable in jeans, comfy sweaters and flip flops, but I always step it up a notch for first dates.. I don't want them to think I'm a slob who doesn't know how to dress.

I just wonder... what goes through guys heads when they get ready for a first date?  Do they think that if they wear what they are wearing in the photos that it will help us pick 'em out of a crowd?

This is an interesting website, they actually give men advice on what to wear to different dates, including the movie theater and dinner.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a better dressed guy on the next date.. Saturday happy hour.

Welcome to my Blog!

After a suggestion from my sister today, I have decided that a blog about my dating adventures would not only be fun but interesting as well!  I'll be sharing stories about blind dates, first dates, missed connections, guys I see on the street, speed dating, etc.  I hope you all find this entertaining!